I OWE YOU AN EXPLANATION

You may have noticed that it’s been a few weeks since I last posted here on the blog. I had to take a step back only because so much has been going on in my personal life that I felt mentally and emotionally drained and just needed to step back from everything including my own beloved blog, to get my spirit back. So what kind of things were happening in my life?

       💭 A close friend broke my heart (if she still is that, I really honestly don’t know – showed no courtesy, lied and turned against me for whatever reason I just don’t know). You don’t need to be in a romantic relationship to have your heart broken, even a friendship can break it too.

       💭 My 8.30AM to 5PM office job. As most of you know, I also work as a claims assistant for an insurance company and have for almost 9 years, five days a week and where I live in Geelong, over the past few weeks we have had three storm events that have caused a-lot of insurance claims to filter through. It has been so chaotic, so frantic that I became so mentally exhausted from my office job, that I just found I had no energy left in me for the blog. Also, I became quite sick because of the exhaustion. I was even having to have siesta naps at work during lunch breaks just to somehow get through the next few hours. So, in turn I had to focus more on my office job and a little less on my blog – but only temporary, OK!

       💭 And the lucky number three? My anxiety returned to full force. The brutal critic inside of my head attacked my self confidence more and more than I had expected, belittled my spirit and crushed my soul into smithereens.

But I’m finally back!!!

I still have a few things that I am sorting out within myself and with my anxiety. I’ve been meditating and doing yoga more, whilst also taking my herbal anxiety supplements to keep the monster on the down low. And it’s working for me.

With my office job, well we are slowly getting there and getting outside help from other states within our company, sending down adjusters to help out our branch. I’m still having my daily lunch time siesta naps just to help with the mental shut down and refreshment for an hour.

But I’ll soon be back in full force with my sassy energy, the fire in my soul, the artistic creative spirit and thunder in my heart!

and now about the outfit

I have always had a deep love and fascination for leather pants. Maybe its because I associate leather pants with being a rock star!! I don’t know, I mean just look at Jon Bon Jovi, Mick Jagger, Rihanna etc. How amazing hardcore, stylish, chic but yet so cool and casual and non-try hard do they look??!

I think leather pants are so hot, so sexy and just give you that extra oomph of confidence and hidden sexuality that you were searching for and wanting, but were afraid to try or ask. I probably have about three pairs of leather pants in my wardrobe. Two are black and the other maroon.

This one in today’s post is from Missguided . There are two zips just above the hip in the usual pocket area giving it that extra street style edge.

And the corset top? Also from Missguided. Corset tops are making a huge appearance in just about every high street store you can name. I came across this one that I’m wearing in the new section of Missguided. My mouth literally just dropped and I said out loud, ‘OMG! I have to have this!!’. So I did and bought it. No two thoughts about it.

The style is feminine but yet has a Joan of Arc energy about it. Because I have such a strong love affair with the rock star persona, I’ve added this top with my leather pants and ankle boots.

But you can completely add this corset top with business pants to work, a gorgeous pleated dress – there really are no limits to what you can wear this top with but more specifically, fashion. Use your imagination and fly free with it!!

OK, I’m off to work but first need to drop by the gas station to buy some energy drinks to get my motors revving! Have a fabulous day everyone, hugs to all of you xoxo

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Get ready for Mother's Day with Katies

Ever since I was a kid, I have always loved special days like Mother’s Day, giving thanks and showing appreciation for the woman who gave birth to me but more importantly who has had to put up with my cheeky behaviour as a kid, my outspoken teenage years and having to put up with me in mu adulthood. Lord, give her strength! Haha!

My mum means the world to me, she is all the family the I have (apart from my gorgeous husband of course, the rest of my family lives in Portugal and France). Without this woman, I would not be able to do all that I can, she continually helps me and supports me even when I’m going through my darkest days, she looks after my fur babies every day when I’m at work and just literally, I would be lost seriously without my beautiful mama.

These are my picks for a casual, comfortable but yet chic look from Katies. It’s just so perfect for the fashionable mum out there. Head on over to Katies and check out what you can buy for your amazing mama.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the human and furbaby mothers out there!! xoxo

Katies Fashion

Printed Peplum Top 

An on-trend piece that’s both chic and relaxed, the printed peplum top will be the perfect Mother’s Day outfit or gift. Pair with smart pants or a pencil skirt to work and your favourite denim for off-duty style.

On-sale for $29.97  (was $49.95) click here to see the item.

Katies Fashion

Tan Suedette Bag

Get this season’s must-have texture trend with this timeless suede-look bag.

In a wear-with-anything tan colour, this essential bag will complement any work to weekend look.

On-sale $29.97 (was $49.95) click here to see the item.

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Pull on Coated Denim

Give your denim wardrobe a luxe edit with the pull on coated denim. The perfect blend of style and comfort with just the right amount of stretch, it’s a versatile style that can be paired with shirts, tops and tunics alike.

On-sale $35.97 (was $59.95) click here to see the item.

SOME MOTHER'S DAY IDEAS TO SHOP FROM AT KATIES


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A Reality Check for Women of ALL Ages

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Oh, winter is definitely on its way!! While here in Australia, down the southern end we have been so incredibly lucky to have had the warm weather up until last week, but the cold weather is now starting to set in. Today is meant to be a top of 14 degrees!! 14 degrees!! Can you believe that?!! Brrrrrr!!!!! So I am completely rugged up today.

I’ve got my asymmetrical poncho cardigan that I bought at Cotton-On, along with my trusty turtleneck (bought at Mango in Portugal) and my ever true love Zara military ankle boots (yes, yes, they appeared a few times on this blog. What can I tell you? I truly TRULY love them!!).

But today I want to speak and share about something that I am so incredibly passionate about, and truly believe in my whole heart and soul, with every fiber in my body, that in this day and age, find it so baffling that society finds it either wrong or are turned off by a woman over the age of thirty-five or more, to want to continue living in this world, so to speak.

WARNING: THIS IS NOT A RANT – IT IS A REALITY CHECK

Let me just start by saying you may either de-follow me, unsubscribe or continue to follow me in support, after what I’m about to say – and you know what, that is OK. I just want to say I am not going to be one of those bloggers who will be dictated by what an ‘older’ blogger should be, should wear or should act and/or behave all just because I am, of a ‘certain’ supposed age.

As a woman, I just want to say I will not allow to be caged in because of the number of years I have lived on this earth. I will express myself as my heart desires, as my soul needs to speak, as my spirits needs to shed another layer of skin to continue on its journey of life. I will not allow society to put me into a ‘home’ or a should I say a ‘prison’ because it feels threatened, unnerved by a (so to speak) ‘mature’ person still growing, dreaming and wanting to achieve all of their dreams desires, be it in a public way or not.

I will not be stereotyped by my age or gender. If it does unnerve you, the question should be asked: WHY?

What is it that scares you about a person of a certain age that wants to continue to live their life, that refuses to be placed into an aged category and be deemed, ‘old’ by their date on their birth certificate.

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As a woman we are criticized (whether you realise it or not) and you will be vilified for wanting to continue to live and express your thoughts, loves, passion, feelings etc. I think the most controversial thing is to want to continue to strive after the age of 35.

My father always told me to fight against the: “could not, would not or I must not”. Resist all of the doubters and naysers to become stronger. Become a fighter, never give up and never allow someone to treat me differently because of my age or gender.

As the saying goes, I shall shake what my mama and papa gave me. I will not and shall not be caged into a supposed ‘what is expected once you are over 40’ to be. There is no age limit to express my hearts desire, my dreams, my eccentricity, my artistic and creative expression.

Please know, I am NOT having a melt down and I am not going through ‘that change’ (just in case you did assume that… again another stereo type for a woman’s behavior or actions). I am just expressing and showcasing my worth as a woman in this ever changing youth obsessed world, that I will not be pushed aside and be made silent, and conform to a stereotype. I too have a right to exist, and have so much to give, to explore, to live and to show.

So you are going to see a blogger that is going to continue to be her true self and not conform to the ageist minority society that exists. I will continue to be my authentic fabulous fashionable self and kick ass in my Manolos and wear BooHoo.ComH&MPretty Little Things or whoever I so desire.

Because you know what, I too have that right and I know what looks good and can pull it off. So don’t label me, or put a tape across my mouth or put me into a nursing home just yet. I will decide when  I will hang up my size 32 A bra and let my boobs hang free, go grab my crochet and sit in my rocking chair and knit away (again, another stereo type). I will make that decision myself and not society. Look at Iris Apfel, Madonna, Elle MacPherson, Beyoncé and Oprah Winfrey  (just to name a few) for inspiration who decide to keep on living and striving, and not conform to what society tells them what they should do or how to be.

So in the meantime, continue to watch me as I aim to not be part of that minority gang and I will ‘rebel’ and make a difference in the system and be a voice for the up coming generation if I can be.

You can be whatever you want to be, at whatever age you are. YOU are in control of YOUR destiny.

WHAT I'M WEARING TODAY

Missguided Jeans / military ankle boots by Zara / turtleneck by Mango / vintage poncho cardigan by Cotton-On


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There are six billion people in the world but remember there is only one YOU

Ever since I can remember I have always tried to keep up with the “cool kids” and dreamt about being the popular girl in school. I know that I’m not the only one who struggled with the same thing but ever since I was a kid in primary school, and even more so in high school, I was heavily picked on and bullied for being weird, a loner, obsessed with Prince and Madonna, a witch (apparently I had a witches laugh… SMH) and also because I had no tits (as flat chested as an ironing board I was in high school. LOL!). I tried for so very long to try to fit in and dress like the cool kids.

Even a couple of years ago, even still as an adult I would try to be like everyone else and be looking at all of the gorgeous bloggers and models, and try to copy the way they did their Instagram posts: the poses, the styling of the clothes, the flat lays… it all got to a point where I crashed and had to go off social media for a month to really look into my soul and finally face who I am, what is my style and love & accept my personality.

We now live in a world where more and more we are bombared with gorgeous images of celebrities and super models with the seemingly perfect life: fancy cars and clothes, money to through away and where apparently that is the goal to achieve in life. And if you’re not like that, well you’re nobody really.

It’s no wonder why so many people get more depressed and experience anxiety and mental health issues. I still go through moments where I still (unfortunately but not as much) compare myself to another blogger who is getting more likes, comments on every social media platform than me (seriously how can you not?), that I end up questioning myself and become my own worst critic.

I started to wish I was drop dead gorgeous, with a body to die for, with perfect teeth – basically just somebody everyone would want to know and hang out with…. I have stood in front of the mirror more times than I would like to admit, hating what I look like and just desperately wishing I was someone else.

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When I took that month of social media, I sat back, looked at my clothes in my wardrobe, looked at all of the books, CD’s, DVD’s I have collected over the years, went over old photographs and had a deep look at who I am and realised, yes I am weird and eccentric, a tad out there with what I’m into but all in all, I think I’m a pretty cool awesome chick, with a unique style.

Sure I got into the blogging business a little later than others but I believe I have a unique voice and vision, and there is NO set age or time limit to have to achieve and follow your dreams.

I look at all the bloggers that I follow on Instagram and so many of them (no disrespect whatsoever to them – it works for them) are very similar in the way they post their photos, style and wear their clothes, the presentation of flat lays, the colour schemes of their feeds etc …basically they all (are a reflection) and resemble each other. And there is no way that I for one, can compete with that or even want to mirror the same style, it just doesn’t work in with my personality and nor do I want to lose who I am and be inside someone else’s vision.

Once I took that time off social media, I took away the pressure to have to compete to be like the popular gorgeous bloggers and decided to be me. It was like a weight had lifted off of my shoulders and the heaviness of the pressure (on myself) to want to be like someone else went away. I embraced… ME. Sure I don’t get excessive likes and comments like most of the bloggers do but I am proud to be different, slightly off centre as they say.

It is all me: all of the quirky, arty farty, creative, pop culture, 90’s supermodel poser wanna-be, raw story telling from my heart posts, are ME. I allowed my artistic vision and integrity to be incorporated into what I wanted to show on my posts on Instagram and on my blog.

I don’t want to be like every other fish in the sea, floating by in their large school group. I want to be that one fish, who probably has a bug eye popping out, with a spiky fin shorter than the other, looking abnormal but happy to be left behind the other fish while shaking my tail and singing out loud to Nsync’s classic song, ‘Bye Bye Bye’ instead of the latest generic Justin Bieber (sorry to all of the Beliebers out there!) song. I know a weird analogy, again that is me but I hope you get what I mean.

Why would I want to be another version of the same person, who is like that other person, who they are also like that other person and so and so on. Why be a duplicator, when you are an original?!

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying at all you cannot be inspired by anyone. Of course you can! I know I am!! You will always be inspired by someone or something, that it will resonate within your spirit and soul, it will help to discover further more about ourselves and open our eyes to the world on another level. But let me just say that there is a difference to being inspired than replicating (copying) another person.

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Be proud of the person who you are.

Own it!

Stand proud!

Be authentic and use that to grow and move ahead in life. Less time wishing to look like Kylie Jenner and more time on embracing the amazing and awesome you!

At the end of the day, in time people will respect, appreciate and respond more to you for being you’re own authentic self, staying true to who you are. So embrace it and use it to your advantage. You are beautiful and there is no one like you.

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OUTFIT I'M WEARING

Lace sleeveless top by H&M, boyfriend ripped jeans & lace-up heels by Zara, sunglasses by Mango and jewellery by Bijou Brigette

[ all pieces bought in Portugal]

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                        Photography by Michelle Tulemija / location: Johnstone’s Park, GeelongAustralia
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Affordable boho chic for a day of strolling along the Beach

Can you believe we are now in April? April!! Where on earth has this year already gone and in two months its already going to be half way in. I’ll be honest with you guys (like I always am here) lately I haven’t been doing so good – my anxiety has returned full throttle and I’m going through a real downer, lately where I’m questioning a-lot of things in my life.

I have been a-lot more stressed than usual, being my own worst enemy and also doesn’t help is a friend (is she still is that, I don’t know as true friends are honest and respectful) broke my heart by not being upfront with me… but anyway for now I won’t get into it, as its still so raw…

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So today, I decided to take a day off work to regroup my thoughts and spirit. Sometimes you need to just need to get that that and get away for a bit to clear your spirit and balance your soul. And what better place than the beach.

So I’ve come today to Anglesea which is located just ten minutes west of Torquay on the Great Ocean Road, this quaint surf town is the perfect spot for all beach and surfing activities but if you’re like me, so not a surfy chick – then it’s perfect just to get away and rejuvenate. With the sun beaming down upon you, energising your spirit and soul, the water cleaning away the negativity – seriously there is nothing better and it is the best therapy you are going to have.

As I sit here on the rocks on the beach at Angleasea, I send you all lots of cyber hugs. Have a fabulous day wherever you are in the world and stay safe xoxo

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SHOP THE OUTFIT I'M WEARING

*Burgundy Lapel Rolled Up Sleeve Split Long Outerwear by SheIn (on-sale), ripped skinny jeans by H&M (bought in Portugal), top by TEMT and *leather gold sandals by Banjarans

* These items were gifted to me for editorial consideration. This post contains an affiliate link. Full disclosure policy here

Photography by TAS / Location: Anglesea - Victoria, AUSTRALIA
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